Well, this is one of the first few extended moments I’ve had to sit down and do some writing on what I’ve been up to since my mom arrived last week! It’s really been a whirlwind and I give her major props for keeping up the the crazy long days and excursions I’ve planned. I met my mom at the airport, shuttled her back to my apartment and told her to pack for the next day! What a trooper. I wonder where I get my go go go attitude and lifestyle…..for those of you that don’t know me that’s a joke. I got it from my mom, the original energizer bunny.
“The quality of our lives depend on the quality of our relationships.” -Esther Perel
Lately I have been focusing on the different relationships in my lives including with myself, friends, family, colleagues, students and the new people I meet everyday in Shanghai. Esther Perel is a psychotherapist who is most known for writing about intimate relationships in her best selling novels, TED talk and podcast that I have started listening to. She is so in-tune with relationship dynamics and I continue to listen to her podcast which is groundbreaking in its approach and look into different relationships and the complex elements that life brings.
“Life is Brutiful.”
I am not sure how I stumbled across the brilliant human that is Glennon Doyle Melton, however I know that my life has changed because of the words of this wise and wonderful woman. I know that I first watched her TED talk titled “Lessons from the Mental Hospital” and absolutely loved it. She is honest, real, hilarious and is one of those people you know that the world is better because of. She talks about being honest, leaving our shame at the door and how sharing our secrets and stories to the world is what possibly may change it forever. She is perhaps known best for starting her blog, momestary, which turned into a book Carry On, Warrior and it’s sequel that is on my list, Love Warrior. #IWantToBeGlennonWhenIGrowUp
“If you want to be understood …Listen.”
Babel is a film that has an all-star cast and a director that gives the performance of a lifetime. Alejandro Gonzalez choreographs a beautiful dance around the world that brings four families in different countries all together in the most unusual circumstances.
“The adoption took time, the love came instantly”
So I am a day late on this post…but it is better to celebrate late rather than never. Yesterday was world adoption day which means a lot to me and my family given that I was adopted from China.
(maybe the quote is true…maybe not….just for giggles)
I am adding a new post that I hope to write about every week regarding a topic most of us can relate to; our mothers. Mothers are a special species that grace this earth that profoundly affect most our lives in a very deep way. I am very fortunate to have a mother that cares immensely for me and that I look up to in many ways. Our relationship is dynamic to say the least and not always a smooth ride, but I love my mom and all her quirks. It’s a love hate relationship. Mostly love. Except when she is late…
“A journey is best measured in friends, rather than miles.”
– Tim Cahill
Yesterday I got back from a whirlwind trip to New York to spend time with friends and catch up on lots of times and adventures that we have all had. Everyone talks about New York as if it is this land where dreams come true; and it is. However, for me, New York means good friends. I told one of my friends that I would be just as happy sitting in her apartment and eating donuts…not going to any attractions or doing whatever a typical New Yorker or tourist does. And I meant it. There is something so special when you find friends that you know will be in your life forever. People tend to come and go in life and thats just part of the rhythm…but I deeply value those who are part of my life and who allow me to part of theirs. Nothing is more special or magical. Money will only buy you so much; but it will never be able to buy you time or friends or family.
It has been a fairly wonderful past week that was filled with learning to ride a scooter…on a roof, biking up to the Boulder Falls (painful incline), some amazing rooftop dinners with friends, sunsets and sunrises and overall beautiful times with great people. Oh and then I got sick and went into full blown hibernation mode and also realised that I had two exams this week. Classic.
My favourite part of the past week was yesterday where I listened to a beautiful message about learning to
Feel, Trust and Love
especially when the world feels broken. In honour of September 11th, we will all never forget.